The only constant, is change.
Feelings, situations and people all evolve as we respond to the fluid and shifting circumstances around us.
We change as we learn, as we grow, as we alter our brain chemistry with our morning coffee.
But we’re not very good at identifying this change. We tend to only focus on a single point of information, tied to the present moment.
I am happy now.
The apple is ripe, at the moment.
Today, weather is cold.
When things start to change we often don’t spot the transition until it’s too late.
We don’t notice getting angry until we’re consumed by it.
We don’t notice speeding up until the roadside speed camera fires its flash at us.
We don’t notice someone becoming dissatisfied until they leave.
But learning to spot this change comes with two huge benefits:
Firstly, noticing this change allows us to more effectively influence situations and create better outcomes.
If we learn to notice ourselves becoming angry, we can make the effort to pause before we say or do something we will regret.
Secondly, awareness of change helps to prevent attachment or aversion to the present moment.
If we learn to notice how fleeting both the good and bad are – we won’t spend so long taking the positive for granted and running away from the negative. Both will be over shortly, so we should spend our time responding to them appropriately.
Accepting change is the first step, embracing it is the second. But it’s learning to spot change, as (or before) it happens which is the key skill. It’s that which enables us to both be happier with the world as it is, and to influence it for the better.