“Yes” is more powerful than “should”

We spend a lot of our time arguing and complaining about how things should be. When we do this, we forget that should is an argument against reality.

First we need to acknowledge and accept how and why things actually are the way they are. We need to say yes to reality in order to truly give ourselves the scope, opportunity and power to influence the situation.

When we talk about should before saying yes, we set ourselves in stark opposition to powerful forces, pushing with the weight of the status quo.

Saying yes doesn’t mean being a doormat or tolerating injustice. It means taking the time to truly recognise and understand something before we set ourselves in blatant opposition to it in the vain hope of making our should a reality.

When we say yes, we accept what is and from that position can be much more skilful and effective in how we spend our time, effort and attention.