As a parent, there are little sayings which you end up reeling off to your kids to try to drill home some of life’s most important lessons – it turns out, many of them also rhyme.
“sharing is caring”
“gentle, not mental”
“champagne for my real friends, real pain for my sham friends”
My personal favourite is from the nursery where my kids used to go:
“You get what you get and you don’t get upset”.
It’s a great little reminder that life isn’t always fair and there is little point in going bananas when it doesn’t meet our expectations.
After all, the world you live in is a complex system of interdependencies which have developed over the last 13.7 billion years. Your expectations? You made them up.
Expectations are an argument with an indifferent reality and the source of a lot of our suffering.
The sooner we can learn to let both expectations and social comparison go, and roll with the actual nature of the world, the happier we will all be.