We often say, “I don’t know what to do, can you help me?”.
Sometimes of course, we genuinely don’t know, we’re stumbling for the next step.
But more often than we like to admit, the question is more honestly “I don’t like what I’m meant to do. Can you help me come up with an excuse?”
We shouldn’t feel bad about feeling this way – it’s a fact of life.
When we pursue something worthwhile, we experience resistance.
The resistance we feel toward a course of action is often as good indicator of its value. It’s a compass that points us to what we should be doing.
As Stephen Pressfield notes in The War of Art.
“Resistance only only opposes in one direction.
Resistance obstructs movement only from a lower sphere to a higher… So if you’re in Calcutta working with the Mother Teresa Foundation and you’re thinking of bolting to launch a career in telemarketing… relax. Resistance will give you a free pass.”
Resistance will grease the easy path, but obstruct the valuable one.
If we listen honestly, our resistance will tell us what to do next. It will make the best option look the most terrifying and that’s how we know it’s the right one.