We flimsy humans can be malleable things and we get twisted into different shapes by belief, opinion, action and circumstance.
The only times this is really a problem is:
– if we’re not aware it’s happening
– if we deny it’s happening
– if we don’t know how to untwist
The first is a matter of being mindful of both our external and internal circumstances. What’s going on? How do I feel about it? How is one impacting the other?
The second is a matter of accepting that it’s a normal response to stressful situations and just being ok with that. There’s no sense saying “I’m not the guy who gets all twisted up.” That’s kinda like saying “I’m not the guy who breathes oxygen.”
The third is the key to being able to handle the twisty situations. It’s your measure of resilience in many ways. And while there are tips and tricks to unwinding yourself, the best thing you can do is be mindful of the first two points. Knowing it’s happening and knowing that it’s a normal response to stress ultimately helps us to untwist.
Because it means you can let the twisting run its course instead of fighting it every step of the way. Because you can acknowledge that it’s happening instead of pretending that it’s not a thing.
This isn’t to say that it wouldn’t be easier to not get twisted up in the first place, but anyone who has lived an actual life, will know that’s just not always possible.